On this episode of Mind Over Motherhood, I sat down with Tiana Fech and discussed navigating the part-time work and motherhood jungle.
Prefer to listen rather than read? Head over and listen to Episode 9 of the Mind Over Motherhood Podcast!
Tiana Fech is a married mom of kids 13, 11, and 8 year old and has been in the field of education (in MANY different positions and ways) for 13 years!
Like SO many of us, Tiana’s idea of her career and work changed dramatically after becoming a mom. I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Tiana for an interview for the Mind Over Motherhood Podcast. From navigating the part-time work and motherhood balance to parenting a child with ADHD, we covered a LOT.
Among so many other amazing things we discussed, here were some of the highlights:
HOW TO CREATE YOUR OWN PART-TIME WORK AND MOTHERHOOD BALANCE
Prior to becoming a mother, Tiana was a full-time teacher. Although she figured that is what she would do after having kids as well, this quickly changed with the birth of her first child.
By utilizing creative solutions and a bit of faith, Tiana was able to find a series of different positions that fit her lifestyle needs AND aligned with her passion for education.
There is SO much in Tiana’s story that I believe resonates with moms. Be sure to listen in to hear how her story developed! If you’re new to navigating your own work-motherhood balance, there is SO much value in Tiana’s story.
It is OK if your work doesn’t feel the same as it did before motherhood. It’s OK if you’re NOT SURE if it’s really the right fit for you anymore, now that you’re a mom. This podcast episode will help you find the courage to create your own “new work normal.”
HOW TO CURATE YOUR PART-TIME WORK AND MOTHERHOOD BALANCE LIKE A DREAM VACATION
Tiana and I discuss how to make changes in your work-life so that your decisions align with your priorities. When you are planning to make changes in your life, it’s so important to use your priorities as a guide.
Tiana also shares how to anticipate and overcome obstacles, and how to navigate the inevitable MOM GUILT that comes with making big, scary changes in your life. As we all know, making changes in our work life impacts our families as well.
Making changes in your work life is not done in one fell swoop. In fact, more often than not, these changes are made in many small baby steps. This is important to realize as we often see only “highlights” of the lives of others. It can be easy to assume that other moms make one big step and change, when really this is not reality.
TIANA’S TOP 3 TIPS FOR QUIETING THE CHAOS OF #MOMLIFE
Tiana had some amazing suggestions to help moms get a better handle on the chaos that is motherhood.
Lean on your village (despite what you think, you don’t ACTUALLY have to do all of this alone!)
Taking time for yourself! (Tiana is ALSO a huge fan of morning routines!) This is also an important priority to keep in mind when you’re navigating the part-time work and motherhood balance.
Creating regular traditions in your life as anchors in your family’s routine. (Tiana has an ADORABLE tradition for the last weekend before school starts!)
These routines and traditions help to create a calm, predictable pattern for your children. They also provide exciting things to look forward to!
These traditions don’t have to be big, expensive productions either. There is so much value in making the most of small moments as well. Tiana has some GREAT ideas for these small moments of connection.
Interested in starting your own morning routine? Be sure to read Part 1 (Why Having a Morning Routine is SO Important!), Part 2 (How to Start Your Morning Routine) and Part 3 (How to Quit-Proof Your Morning Routine) of my Morning Routine Series.
PARENTING AND TEACHING A CHILD WITH ATTENTION DIFFICULTIES
Tiana is an expert is children and teaching. She also is the parent of a child who struggles ADHD-inattentive type and anxiety. These two co-morbid conditions often go hand-in-hand and it was invaluable hearing Tiana’s perspective.
Tiana has amazing insights into the experience of being both a parent and educator of children with ADHD.
THE VALUE OF FORMAL ASSESSMENT + DIAGNOSIS
If you’re struggling with the difficult decision to pursue a formal diagnosis for your child, it’s important to be aware of the common fears around this.
Tiana and I discuss how the process of assessment and diagnosis it is actually more positive than most parents expect. A formal diagnosis of a learning disability/ADHD can actually be a source of empowerment and support for a child in their learning journey.
Pursuing a formal assessment allows your child to gain a better understanding of who they are as a person, their strengths and weaknesses, and how to best advocate for themselves. Sometimes parents worry that by “labelling” their child, it will limit the child’s opportunities, but it is actually the exact opposite. Carly and Tiana share their professional and personal experiences regarding psychoeducational assessment for children.
A formal diagnosis provides a child with a tool to access supports and resources that they need, from elementary school and all the way to post-secondary education. The process of diagnosis not only highlights the challenges a child may have, but also identifies the strengths that an individual child has.
Furthermore, Tiana highlights the importance of having actual conversations with teachers, especially when a child struggles with attention challenges. It is ideal if these conversations can occur on the phone or even better in person. Furthermore, the earlier these conversations happen in the school year, the better! Depending on the age of your child, it may be appropriate for your child to be involved in these conversations.
By going through the process of formal psychoeducational assessment, both parents and children are often surprised at how enlightening and empowering it is to gain clarity on what the actual learning challenges are, what supports exist to help the child thrive and feel a sense of relief around the entire situation.
Connect with Tiana on Instagram: @parttimejungle
Interested in learning more about navigating the part-time work and motherhood balance? Listen to Tiana’s podcast: The Part Jungle Podcast
Thanks for listening!