How To Keep The Spark Alive After Having Kids

March 4, 2021

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Over the last few weeks, we’ve been discussing all thing relationships. This episode answers the question that so many of my listeners have been asking: how do you keep the spark alive after kids?

I had the pleasure of chatting with Kelly Swartz all about how to keep the spark alive after kids, and how to cultivate pleasure and desire as a mom. 

How To Keep The Spark Alive

Kelly Swartz is a Self-Intimacy & Sex Coach.

She has over 10 years of experience in sexuality and the erotic. She is a grad of IIN in Holistic Health Coaching, holds a Masters and is a PhD candidate in erotic literature at CUNY Graduate Center.

Kelly is a frequent guest speaker in conferences, television, video, radio, and podcasts on self-intimacy, self-seduction, erotic literature and pornography.


She helps women have the best sex of their lives that they need, deserve and should having! 


“How Do I Get Back To The Way Things Were?”

This is the most common question that Kelly gets from her client, “how do I go back to how things were before I had kids?.” A question, if you’re a mom, you’ve likely wondered yourself. 

 Kelly responses with a question herself, “when was the last time you had loud sex?”… chances are it was likely before you had kids, because, well, you have kids in the house! 

The point Kelly is trying to make is:  your sex life won’t go back to how it was before you had kids. It can’t – things have changed – but that doesn’t mean that you can’t keep the spark alive and have better sex than before! 

Your sex life will be different, but if you move forward and allow it to change and adapt to life with kids, it can be better! 


Good Sex Starts From Within

A common theme in my discussion with Kelly was that good sex starts from within. As women we haven’t been taught this, we think that sex is external. When in reality sex and sexuality is within us. 

From getting reacquainted with yourself and your body. To expanding your definition of intimacy, seduction and pleasure. To communicating with your partner. Kelly shares simple but powerful ways to keep the spark alive after having kids. 

Like so much of what I share here on Mind Over Motherhood: Kelly advocates that your thoughts, brain and self-care play a big role in having great sex.

We dug into so much goodness on this podcast – be sure to listen! 


Connect With My Guest: Kelly Swartz

 Find Kelly on all social media platforms as Awoken Beauty

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  • The most common question women ask about sex after having children + the answer might surprise you!
  • Why good sex needs to start with you.
  • Why it’s okay to masturbate, even when you don’t want to have sex with your partner.
  • How to expand your definition of intimacy and seduction to better fit your married life with kids.
  • Common problems and challenges new moms experience.
  • The importance of self-care for your sex life.
  • How to better communicate with your partner about sex and your desires.
  • The importance of your brain as your biggest sexual organ. You can’t work on first on the body and then the brain – it doesn’t work that way.  

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